Since early childhood, we have been conditioned to be nice to others, and constantly reminded of the benefits of being nice – that people will like you more and you’ll feel better. But, knowing where to draw the line, is where a lot of us miss the point.
There is such a thing as being too nice, too giving and too caring. Such people are afraid to set boundaries, and say no. They are perceived as weak and always taken for granted since they put other people's needs and desires before their own - often leading them down the path of low self esteem and depression.
This funny video below is something we can relate to and have seen happen, either with ourselves or someone we know.
A good rule of thumb to avoid being too nice, is to just focus on being kind instead. And, there is a difference.
Niceness is based on fear, trying to be agreeable and pleasant, seeking approval and validation, fearing to fall on society’s bad side.
Kindness is based on love, wanting to do the right thing, improving the well-being of others out of genuine care and not from the need to please.
Kindness brightens your own life and of those around you, helps you be a better person in relationships and attracts good people in to your life.
Stop looking outside for validation and try to please others. Instead, just embrace your self worth and do the right thing. All else will follow.
More on the difference between nice and kind can be read here, if interested.